November 2011
“Some relationships are full of conflict, and persistent rows of bickering become normalized: emotional pain becomes a familiar part of the relationship, and without it the relationship in fact might be broken up. Conflict-ridden relationships contrast with the ‘de-energized’ ones. Here there is little direct antagonism between partners, but little in the way of a strong bond either: inertia sustains the relationship. The partners get along with one another in a reasonable enough way in day-to-day matters, but are often bored with and resentful of one another.”
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Anthony Giddens quoting Jane Rainwater (via limoncellomusings)
I hate bickering with you. HATE IT. You call it putting your foot down, to me it feels like you’re constantly making snide little comments to make me feel like shit. And I do, I feel like shit, because I want to do something that I want to do. You call that selfish, because I want to do something else? I don’t feel like that’s fair. I love you, but I feel crappy most of the time we talk because I feel like I am constantly disappointing you by not doing what you want me to be doing or want me to want. I hate this…
aromantic
aromantic — an aromantic individual is someone who does not experience romantic attraction or a desire for romantic relationships. There are aromantic asexuals, as well as aromantic sexual people of all sexual orientations. An aromantic person’s feelings on relationships, physical affection, emotional closeness, commitment, etc will vary widely from person to person. It should be noted that while some aromantic people prefer to live alone and remain unpartnered, many other aromantic people actively desire one or more serious/long-term platonic partner(s) and may or may not desire cohabitation with their partner(s). Some aromantics hate being touched, while others love it. Some aromantics want childrern many don’t.
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This is the best description i have read thus far on being aromantic. I need to stop thinking of myself as a shitty person cause I can’t be in a “normal” relationship. When i say i am doing the best I can, I really am.
